Friendship of Convenience

I have had limited friends in my life but whenever i call someone a friend I care for them, I think about them and wish that they remain happy. However the definition of friends has changed these days. Earlier friends were people who enjoyed being together, chatting, doing things keeping their own individual identity and just spending time sometimes doing nothing. These days friends are people who must have a common factor to spend time together such as drinking or smoking or non tabacco smoking or some kind of addiction which you share with the other.Everything of the past has been forgotten. Everything that made you happy and gave  a you more than you asked for has been forgotten.

As a friend I helped another friend to resolve issues with his girlfriend, made him settle in foreign land and made him comfortable, always taking care to ensure he remains at peace. Forgotten!

As a friend helped another mate to resolve issues with his married life, made him settle in a new place and spent so many nights just making sure his life came back on track. Forgotten!

A friend was in terrible financial crisis and he just needed someone like a big brother to sound his concerns and maybe get some help. Forgotten!

I never had a feeling of getting things back for all the times I stood by them, but basic courtesy of being involved in my life has been forgotten.

These days friendship exist on Convenience of who is that person who you can drink with or smoke with and everything about care, compassion, good times has been forgotten.

If friends move apart and isolate others based on alcohol or tobacco by overstating the importance of the same then it completely devalues everything the friendship was built on.

Maybe it was never friendship, maybe they were just friends (people) in need of something.

I feel sad but once again a part of life has taught me a lesson that people who you think are your friends are only people who in your happy times and their tough times need you, and when its over the so called friends become just People!

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